HI. I'M KIRSTEN BOMBDIGGITY.
Yes, legally.
I’m a writer, speaker, and dopamine coach for high-achieving women over 40 who feel invisible in their own lives.
I help them reclaim clarity, agency, and momentum when being reliable has quietly turned into carrying too much.
Not by pushing harder.
Not by fixing their mindset.
But by helping them understand why capable people become the default holder of responsibility—and how to interrupt the patterns that make that feel inevitable.
My work blends brain science, narrative intelligence, and practical strategy. It’s designed to be used in real life, in real roles, under real pressure.
AS SEEN IN
WHAT I DO & WHY
IT WORKS
High-performing women are often doing everything “right.”
They’re trusted.
They’re competent.
They’re the ones people count on.
Over time, that reliability turns into invisible load:
unspoken expectations, unresolved decisions, and responsibility that quietly accumulates until clarity, energy, and agency start to erode.
I help women see those patterns clearly—and then change them using tools that are:
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research-based
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strategically sound
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emotionally intelligent
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and immediately usable
This isn’t therapy.
It isn’t mindset.
And it isn’t performative self-care.
It’s about restoring choice where default patterns have taken over.
WHY YOU CAN TRUST THIS WORK
I bring both lived experience and institutional credibility to this work.
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Amazon bestselling author focused on identity, agency, and reinvention
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Certified in Applied Narrative Intelligence
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Certified Experiential Narrative Practitioner
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Fractional Chief Education Officer for a CME-accredited physician consulting company
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Former Chief Experience Officer supporting thousands of physicians
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25+ years facilitating complex conversations in high-stakes environments
I also create and host high-impact summits that bring together leading voices in narrative intelligence, neuroscience, leadership, and identity work.
I design learning experiences that are built to be used, not admired.
They help people think more clearly, make better choices, and stop carrying what was never theirs to hold in the first place.
MYÂ BOOK
Divorced After 40: The F*ck Yes Guide to Rewriting Your Second Act
A candid, practical guide for women reclaiming identity, confidence, and momentum when life doesn’t follow the original plan. Many of the themes in my speaking and coaching—agency, narrative, and the cost of disappearing inside roles that once fit—are explored more deeply here.
SPEAKING & KEYNOTES
My signature talk is:
The Hidden Cost of Being the One Everyone Counts On
How Invisible Over-functioning Erodes Performance, Retention, and Leadership Sustainability
High-performing employees and leaders often become the quiet backbone of their organizations - bridging gaps, managing complexity, and absorbing responsibility without realizing the long-term cost. When ownership is unclear and invisible labor goes unaddressed, cognitive load accumulates. Over time, this hidden over-functioning erodes focus, engagement, succession readiness, and retention.
This research-based, highly practical session helps organizations identify where disproportionate load is quietly draining their strongest contributors, and how to correct it before burnout and turnover follow.
While anyone can fall into this pattern, uneven load distribution disproportionately impacts:
• Women
• Caregivers
• Neurodivergent employees
• Chronically ill and energy-variable employees
Blending current brain science with operational clarity tools, participants leave with:
• A framework for identifying invisible load inside teams
• A method for clarifying ownership and decision rights
• A language model for addressing overfunctioning without blame
• A strategy to protect high performers while increasing accountability
This session is engaging, evidence-based, and immediately applicable - designed for leaders and HR professionals who want sustainable performance, not short-term heroics.
Available in 30-, 45-, or 60-minute formats, with or without facilitated Q&A or executive roundtable follow up.
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