HI. I'M KIRSTEN BOMBDIGGITY.
Yes, legally.
I’m a writer, speaker, and dopamine coach for high-achieving women over 40 who feel invisible in their own lives.
I help them reclaim clarity, agency, and momentum when being reliable has quietly turned into carrying too much.
Not by pushing harder.
Not by fixing their mindset.
But by helping them understand why capable people become the default holder of responsibility—and how to interrupt the patterns that make that feel inevitable.
My work blends brain science, narrative intelligence, and practical strategy. It’s designed to be used in real life, in real roles, under real pressure.
AS SEEN IN
WHAT I DO & WHY
IT WORKS
High-performing women are often doing everything “right.”
They’re trusted.
They’re competent.
They’re the ones people count on.
Over time, that reliability turns into invisible load:
unspoken expectations, unresolved decisions, and responsibility that quietly accumulates until clarity, energy, and agency start to erode.
I help women see those patterns clearly—and then change them using tools that are:
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research-based
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strategically sound
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emotionally intelligent
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and immediately usable
This isn’t therapy.
It isn’t mindset.
And it isn’t performative self-care.
It’s about restoring choice where default patterns have taken over.
WHY YOU CAN TRUST THIS WORK
I bring both lived experience and institutional credibility to this work.
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Amazon bestselling author focused on identity, agency, and reinvention
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Certified in Applied Narrative Intelligence
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Certified Experiential Narrative Practitioner
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Fractional Chief Education Officer for a CME-accredited physician consulting company
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Former Chief Experience Officer supporting thousands of physicians
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25+ years facilitating complex conversations in high-stakes environments
I also create and host high-impact summits that bring together leading voices in narrative intelligence, neuroscience, leadership, and identity work.
I design learning experiences that are built to be used, not admired.
They help people think more clearly, make better choices, and stop carrying what was never theirs to hold in the first place.
MYÂ BOOK
Divorced After 40: The F*ck Yes Guide to Rewriting Your Second Act
A candid, practical guide for women reclaiming identity, confidence, and momentum when life doesn’t follow the original plan. Many of the themes in my speaking and coaching—agency, narrative, and the cost of disappearing inside roles that once fit—are explored more deeply here.
SPEAKING & KEYNOTES
My signature talk is:
The Hidden Cost of Being the One Everyone Counts On
High-performing women often become the quiet backbone of their work, families, and communities: bridging gaps, managing complexity, and absorbing responsibility without realizing the toll it takes. This interactive, research-based session explores why capable women end up carrying so much, and how unresolved decisions and unclear ownership drain energy, focus, and agency over time.
Blending current brain science with practical, real-world tools, this session helps participants gain clarity, reduce unnecessary cognitive load, and make more intentional choices about where their energy goes—without guilt, burnout, or blowing up their lives. Designed to be engaging and participatory, it’s especially resonant for women over 40 who are successful on the outside but feeling stretched thin or invisible in their own lives.
Available in 30-, 45-, or 60-minute formats, with or without facilitated Q&A.
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