Consistency Isn't A Skill
I’ve been doing my own thing for almost a year now. Building programs. Hosting summits. Sending grown adults scratch-off cards because dopamine is a real coaching strategy.
But a weekly newsletter? Oh, absolutely not. My brain treated that like I was volunteering for jury duty.
It’s hilarious, because I love writing. But my brain? She kept hissing, “Ma’am… everyone’s inbox already looks like a daggum crime scene.”
Then I wrote the first one. Then another. Then another.
Now I’ve sent six weekly newsletters in a row, and people keep responding with things like:
“I absolutely LOVE your Bombdiggity Weekly email… everything you’re doing feels so incredibly aligned.” “What a delightful email.” “You’re a fabulous writer and I love reading your stuff.” “You are a wonderful storyteller.” “You’re very good at what you do.”
It’s the kind of validation that makes my nervous system scuttle out from under the porch like a feral raccoon, clutching the praise and hissing, “MINE. I WILL HUNT FOR MORE.”
And right there, in the glow of my inbox, the real story surfaced:
The problem was never that we suck at consistency. The problem is that the world sold us a definition of consistency that makes zero biological sense.
We’re not inconsistent. We’re mis-measured.
CONSISTENCY ISN’T THE PROBLEM
The problem is being human in a culture built for robots.
1. Our nervous systems evolved for survival, not streaks.
The productivity world loves “daily habits.” Our nervous systems love “not dying.”
These values are… incompatible.
If we’ve lived through burnout, caretaking, big emotions, trauma, ADHD wiring, or being everyone’s emotional first responder, our brains prioritize scanning for threat, not publishing every week on LinkedIn like a content monk.
This isn’t inconsistency. It’s intelligence under pressure.
2. ADHD brains don’t do monotony. They do meaning.
If you’re ADHD-ish (officially or spiritually), your brain isn’t powered by discipline — it’s powered by emotional resonance.
Research shows a 30–40% executive function lag in ADHD brains. Society interprets this as moral failure. Meanwhile, we’re over here absorbing tension, smoothing conflicts, offering support, and anticipating needs like a fortune teller flipping tarot cards at a county fair.
We don’t half-ass life. We whole-ass the things that matter.
3. Chronic stress kneecaps the part of the brain that handles consistency.
Long-term cortisol suppresses the prefrontal cortex — planning, focus, follow-through.
A 2022 study showed a 38% drop in cognitive flexibility for chronically stressed adults.
So of COURSE we repeatedly forget the thing we swear we’ll do. Our brain moved the furniture without telling us.
4. We’re actually extremely consistent — just not in the ways productivity culture praises.
We are consistent in:
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showing up for people
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remembering the emotional temperature of every room
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managing crises
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carrying mental load for entire households and organizations
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keeping ourselves alive under conditions that would knock out a slap-competition champion
But does anyone applaud THAT consistency? No. Because it can’t be put in a spreadsheet.
5. Shame kills consistency. Safety grows it.
My newsletter didn’t become consistent because I suddenly became a “disciplined adult.”
It became consistent because:
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my nervous system felt safe enough
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the writing felt meaningful
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the responses felt connecting
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and the whole thing stopped being a performance and started being a conversation
Every week I send one more email. Every week my brain goes: “Oh. We’re allowed to show up like this.”
That’s consistency. Messy. Humble. Human.
If you want a place where consistency isn’t a moral test…
…come join the DaBomb Weekly.
It’s the home base for:
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brain science that actually respects how we’re wired
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stories that make us feel less alone
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tiny rebellions against hustle culture
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compassion for the parts of us that are tired
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curiosity, humor, honesty, and zero shame
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and all the wonderful weird brilliance that comes with having a sensitive, adaptive brain in a pressure-cooker world
It’s a place for humans who have carried too much, felt too much, tried too hard, and blamed themselves for being inconsistent when their nervous systems were simply exhausted.
If you want to feel seen, supported, nerded-out-with, and celebrated for the human you already are… Come belong.
Come get the good stuff.
